Are you eligible?
The most common concerns addressed in surrogate partner therapy are:
romantic and sexual inexperience
pain during intercourse
compulsive sexual behavior
delayed or inhibited ejaculation
sexual orientation confusion
Are you in therapy?
Surrogates only see clients who have been referred by a therapist. Not all therapists refer to surrogate partners. If you are interested in seeing a surrogate in the Los Angeles area, I can refer you to a therapist near me. If you are not in the Los Angeles area, you can contact the International Professional Surrogate's Association referrals coordinator (firstname.lastname@example.org) for more information about their therapist members.
Have you been to a doctor?
Some sexual concerns may be entirely physiological in nature, and therefore outside of the ability of a therapist and surrogate to treat alone. If you are having physical pain and discomfort, it is important that you rule out a number of medical conditions. For example, some erection difficulties may stem from underlying heart problems, excessive use of drugs or alcohol, unhealthy blood pressure, normal aging, or other vascular damage.
Many surrogate partners do see disabled clients, but the primary goal of the surrogate is to help the client learn to adapt to dating and sex with a disability, not the treatment of physical pain.
Are you committed?
Surrogate partner therapy is a process that takes months for some and years for others. Clients must be willing to keep regular appointments in order to see progress. The average amount of time for both weekly and intensive courses of surrogate partner therapy is 38 hours, but the amount of sessions varies based on the individual client's needs. Because the process is adapted to the individual, we cannot make any guarantees as to the length of the process.